i'm a connector

a friend told me recently that i had to read "the tipping point." she described me as "a connector"

Connectors: Those with wide social circles. They are the "hubs" of the human social network and responsible for the small world phenomenon.

 

i haven't read the book but i'd consider that a pretty fair judgment. if only because i have a million friends, that travel in a million different circles. i meet people everywhere. i meet people out, i meet them through friends, through jobs, through school, through political involvement, i even hang out occasionally with a girl who responded to an advertisement when i was renting out a room. she didn't want the room but she asked if i wanted to have dinner anyway.

 

i often try to get my friends to mingle which sometimes leads to successful new friendships formed between my friends. i like being able to bring people together. i like sharing the love. my best birthday party ever was the time that i was so sick that i sat at the bar feeling like i was going to faint. that sounds awful, but it was awesome because so many people from so many different places were all meeting each other and getting along and having a good time. i couldn't have been happier under the circumstances.

 

that being said, it's a lot of work. i'm ALWAYS the one suggesting meetings. i'm ALWAYS the one sending out the mass e-mails trying to get people together. why is it always my job? how come nobody else cares enough to share the "social planning" load? i think i'm partially to blame. because i'm always reaching out, "checking in," getting things together that everyone else gets used to tagging along for the ride.

no mas. i'm still meeting people all the time. old english man calls often but he hangs out in the uber trendy (read: really annoying) meatpacking dist too often. i met an AMAZING guy on sunday night who has both amazing professional possibilities (i wish i could post his name so you could google him...but i can't) and he's not so bad looking either. i'm going to stop worrying so much about "connecting" for a while. my sched is full for the next couple of weeks anyhow. i have a party at this place on friday. bring on the asian drum circles!