Wednesday, January 31, 2007

i'm a connector

a friend told me recently that i had to read "the tipping point." she described me as "a connector"

Connectors: Those with wide social circles. They are the "hubs" of the human social network and responsible for the small world phenomenon.
i haven't read the book but i'd consider that a pretty fair judgment. if only because i have a million friends, that travel in a million different circles. i meet people everywhere. i meet people out, i meet them through friends, through jobs, through school, through political involvement, i even hang out occasionally with a girl who responded to an advertisement when i was renting out a room. she didn't want the room but she asked if i wanted to have dinner anyway.
i often try to get my friends to mingle which sometimes leads to successful new friendships formed between my friends. i like being able to bring people together. i like sharing the love. my best birthday party ever was the time that i was so sick that i sat at the bar feeling like i was going to faint. that sounds awful, but it was awesome because so many people from so many different places were all meeting each other and getting along and having a good time. i couldn't have been happier under the circumstances.
that being said, it's a lot of work. i'm ALWAYS the one suggesting meetings. i'm ALWAYS the one sending out the mass e-mails trying to get people together. why is it always my job? how come nobody else cares enough to share the "social planning" load? i think i'm partially to blame. because i'm always reaching out, "checking in," getting things together that everyone else gets used to tagging along for the ride.

no mas. i'm still meeting people all the time. old english man calls often but he hangs out in the uber trendy (read: really annoying) meatpacking dist too often. i met an AMAZING guy on sunday night who has both amazing professional possibilities (i wish i could post his name so you could google him...but i can't) and he's not so bad looking either. i'm going to stop worrying so much about "connecting" for a while. my sched is full for the next couple of weeks anyhow. i have a party at this place on friday. bring on the asian drum circles!

7 people who played with me:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

So it is impossible to take you to lunch.. I must have my people call your people one of these days.

1/31/2007 9:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I refer to a "connector" as a "Cruise Director: Julie McCoy."

Fuuuuuck I'm old.

1/31/2007 10:48 AM  
Blogger The Stormin Mormon said...


In my job it's so incestuous that we all somehow seem to know EVERYONE, and if you hang out with anyone for long enough to run into old friends that they somehow know.

Coordinating is a royal PITA though, so I feel your pain there. It's so difficult to not just sit and let things just evolve on their own. People tend to get so busy that they neglect anything fun if you'll let them.


1/31/2007 11:29 AM  
Anonymous ale said...

yeah, i'm like that too lots of times actually so i know how u feel

exciting abt the new guy!

1/31/2007 6:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Meh, don't bother with the book. It's basically the same things repeated over and over.

Drum circles are hilarious, especially when embellished with interpretive dance.

1/31/2007 6:26 PM  
Blogger omar said...

If not for people like you, people like me wouldn't ever end up talking to anyone. So, thanks!

1/31/2007 9:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jazz, you have a great gift - that you can get along with everyone (and can bring them together). If this gets tiresome, just get crabby and bitchy like me and the circle will tighten!

2/01/2007 5:56 AM  

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